A Meek And Quiet Spririt

3:1 In the same way, wives, be subject to your own husbands. Then, even if some are disobedient to the word, they will be won over without a word by the way you live, 2 when they see your pure and reverent conduct. 3 Let your beauty not be external – the braiding of hair and wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes – 4 but the inner person of the heart, the lasting beauty of a gentle and tranquil spirit, which is precious in God’s sight. 5 For in the same way the holy women who hoped in God long ago adorned themselves by being subject to their husbands, 6 like Sarah who obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. You become her children when you do what is good and have no fear in doing so. 7 Husbands, in the same way, treat your wives with consideration as the weaker partners and show them honor as fellow heirs of the grace of life. In this way nothing will hinder your prayers.

The idea of a gentle and quiet spirit used to really bother me. I am not particularly quiet spoken. I'm a pure blood Cajun girl from the bayou's of Southeast Louisiana where Everyone is Loud and voices their opinion Loudly. A few days ago, two of my sisters and I went out to lunch and then to a flea market. We had the BEST time ever. We laughed SOOOO much that the owner of the restaurant came out and said that the guy shucking oysters way in the back could hear us laughing. He said, "Those women out there are having a good time," Yes we were and we were quite LOUD with our fun times of reminiscing growing up. 💗  When I get excited, sometimes my husband reminds me to speak more softly. When I really looked at these verses, I realized that it doesn’t say a gentle and quiet voice. How exciting! But what does it mean then to have a gentle and tranquil spirit? Dr. Wayne Grudem says that gentle means “’not insistent on one’s own rights’ or ‘not pushy,’ ‘not selfishly assertive, not demanding one’s own way.’”¹⁰

 Are you spending more time adorning your spirit or your body? 

 Submission does not mean that you are to submit to physical abuse from your Spouse. When you are in danger of harm, you need to act wisely to protect yourself and your family. 

Again, attitude has a lot to do with submission. I find that when I respect my husband and encourage him to make wise decisions then he hardly never has a problem with me sharing my thoughts on the subject as well (and may decide that my choice or idea is a better one) however, when I suggest that he doesn’t know what he is doing, I am failing to honor him and respect him as I should. The issue isn’t that I can’t state my thoughts, it is that I need to do it in the right way...... with the right attitude.

I've told my oldest daughter that it's NOT what you say.....But it's HOW you say it that makes all the difference. As a wife, I "usually" explain to my Mr. Handsome my thoughts on certain situations and he listens and then HE makes the final decision.

OR he'll tell me how he feels on a certain topic or decision and almost 100% of the time it's the same thing I'm thinking. So, we're normally on the "same page" in our decision making. As the word of God says....and the two shall become one.💜
 






 And so, remember ladies a meek and quiet spirit does NOT mean that you can't express your thoughts, it means that you should NOT over-ride your hubby. You can share your thoughts, but in the end.....He is the Head of the home and therefore is the one that stands before God on his leading in the family. If you choose to leave a comment, please be nice about it. This page is for Learning, Teaching and Sharing. 😘